“Intense Eye Contact”

20. Opia / (OH-pee-yah) 

Intense eye contact. 

It’s a lost art.

The breaking down of barriers between us begins with an acknowledgement of “the other.”

Intimacy then, is a practice in understanding.

And no matter how difficult or scary, we have to remember that we are human.

We need each other.

We are each other.

Opia, to me, is evidence of this fact.

(watch it)

When was the last time you held eye contact with someone for a minute?

Not over facetime. In real life.

Opia is that last idea in this series, and is another “made up” word, I admit.

In reality, it’s often used as a suffix for eye related conditions, such as myopia. In fact, according to some dictionaries, the very term itself indicates a disorder.

But I decided to take a different definition

To me, the very notion of eye contact hits at a deeper truth about the human condition.

We desire oneness.

(funnily enough, we’re all pretty much the same)

Remember the quote we started with?

One of my favorites..

“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”

So, now what?

Language comes from the Latin word lingua, or tongue, which happens to be of the strongest organs in the body.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”

Proverbs 18:21

And languages constitute a large portion of how we relate to one another.

In a sense, these words are really like repositories of shared human wisdom.

They help us realize ideas

They help build on our collective memory.

I heard this quote from a good friend once…

“Words are like the shaky bridge on which we send thoughts into the universe.”

Two things:
  1. Environment dictates thought.
  2. Our environment is shit.

Both in word, and in action.

Social media has muddied the landscape of human interaction, and our relationships suffer as a result. We’re eternally infinite beings that have been reduced to computer algorithms.

Our celebrities are anything but bright.

Our laws are often arbitrary or unfair.

Our “public servants” respond to private interests.

Our “humanitarians” push anti-human ideas (hyperlink gates).

The world is burning. The caps are melting. The sky is falling. Blablabla.

So, now what?

It’s time to reverse the trend.

That’s what a revolution is, after all.

My suggestion…

Let’s get back to thinking about what words really mean. 

Words like, love.

Be. Here. Now.

But I get it. In a time where lies are the norm, fibs are justified, and saying whatever you want to get ahead is considered status quo; thinking about love can seem corny.

But, that doesn’t feel right.

Your beliefs become your destination.

We have the tools, let’s use them.

That’s all.


I don’t know much, but I try my best to share what I do understand.

And to do it honestly.

So, if you’d like to grow in your understanding – let’s be Patreon buddies.

I’m working on a few things at the moment. Between launching a podcast, creating an online course, writing a book, and building out this blog.

But at the end of the day, it has to be about people. Other people.

In short, I need students to test the material on.

Problem is it costs money.

But, if you’re at all interested; here it goes. I’m calling it “a space to grow”.

I’ll leave you with one more quote I really like..

“All I need is a sheet of paper and something to write with, and I can turn the world upside down.

…Nietzsche said that.

(At least, I’m pretty sure.)

Published by Toso

I like big ideas and I cannot lie.

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